Violence Against Women: Fact or Fiction?
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1. A man's home is his castle; he is the
head of the household.
2. Abuse ends when a couple separate.
3. People who abuse are mentally ill.
4. The victim provoked the abuse
and, therefore, deserved it.
5. The victims must like it or they
6. Woman abuse occurs most
often among certain groups
7. Alcohol and drugs cause abuse.
8. Women are just as abusive as men.
9. Abuse is physical.
Fact and Fiction.
In Canada today, partners are considered equals, but men continue to earn more than women, and women are responsible for most of the child care and domestic work in the home. Regardless of whether someone is considered the “head of the household,” no one has the right to abuse someone else.
Abuse does not always end with separation. In fact, most separated abused women report experiencing some form of abuse following separation, according to the Centre for Children and Families in the Justice System at the London Family Court Clinic in Ontario. For some women, the abuse begins after separation.
There is no evidence that people who abuse are mentally ill. People usually have control over their behaviour, and most abusers choose when and whom they abuse. Most abusers are not violent in other parts of their lives, at work, for example. Sometimes outsiders cannot believe the abuse occurs because the abuser seems quiet and controlled outside the home.
No one deserves to be abused. While people who abuse often say they were provoked, the fact is we are all responsible for our own behaviour. Provocation is an excuse abusers use to relieve themselves of their own responsibility for the abuse.
There are many reasons why people do not leave their partners, including financial and emotional dependence, shame, fear, and a belief that marriage is forever. They may also stay for cultural or religious reasons. Some women stay because they believe it is better for their children.
Abuse has no boundaries. However, women with low incomes are more likely to use women's shelters. Middle- and upper-income women are more likely to use other resources.
While some abusers may also abuse alcohol or drugs, chances are they abuse their partners whether they drink or do drugs. They may use this as an excuse for not taking responsibility for their actions.
According to Statistics Canada, men (49%) and women (51%) are equally at risk of violent victimization. However, prevalence rates do not tell the entire story. The more coercive and aggressive violence is perpetrated by men. A report prepared in 2009 by Stats Can found that on average every six days a woman in Canada is killed by her intimate partner. In 2009, 67 women were murdered by a current or former spouse or boyfriend.
Fact and fiction.
Abuse takes many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse. Many women say that constant put downs are very damaging to them because their self-confidence is eroded.
“Many of the authority figures that abused women come in contact with are men (for example, police, lawyers, judges). It is easy for abused women to be intimidated and fearful of these authority figures.”
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